update pybind to 2.10.2

[PaliC]

Updated to unblock pytorch/pytorch#91248 (comment) and the refcount debug utils will be useful :)

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[Skylion007]

I opened a new PR to try v2.10.3 which is almost identical but turns the refcount debug utils off by default (until pybind111 2.11) and has some misc fixes.

[Skylion007]

Hmm so it looks like there is some GIL issues. One common failure case we saw from this is trying store a python object as a global static variable (as the ctor would be called before the interpreter is initialized).

[PaliC]

Gotcha, will enable testing for #305

I'll take a look to see if there's any global static py::objects

[Skylion007]

Hmm, are there atexit hooks in this codebase? I think there is an open issue with those that needs to be fixed.

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