[WIP] fix: all event targets for shadow dom

[snowystinger]

Closes

Another bulk fix for shadow dom, this lints for event.target and auto fixes to getEventTarget(event) which just defers to event.target under the hood.

Some were done here:
#8991

This PR should make reviewing other ShadowDOM PRs easier and prevent us from regressing

Follow up to #9485

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• Filled out test instructions.
• Updated documentation (if it already exists for this component).
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## API Changes

@react-aria/utils

/@react-aria/utils:getEventTarget

-getEventTarget <T extends Event> {
+getEventTarget <T extends Event | SyntheticEvent> {
   event: T
   returnVal: undefined
 }

/@react-aria/utils:nodeContains

 nodeContains {
-  node: Node | null | undefined
-  otherNode: Node | null | undefined
+  node: Node | Element | null | undefined
+  otherNode: Node | Element | null | undefined
   returnVal: undefined
 }

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[snowystinger]

Closing in favour of some extra work i did to minimize TS errors and other lint issues. Also no longer acts on certain events like PressEvents or Drag events if possible, since those are our own objects that don't match actual Events
#9486